HOW TO STOP WORRYING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU

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DON'T WORRY, BE HAPPY

When we love what we do, how is it that we get easily swayed by other people’s opinion of us? The problem is that we worry whether or not they will accept who we are as a person. The fear of being judged and misunderstood cripple our decision making. The truth is they will always have opinions about us whether we like it or not. We can’t always please everyone, but there will always be someone who will support us. 

 

In a world full of negativity and hate we need to stand strong and stick with our guts. Before you read any further, I suggest you listen to Bobby McFerrin’s song, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”. The song goes like this: “In every life we have some trouble, but when you worry you make it double, don’t worry, be happy.” That’s right, when we worry too much it causes us even more stress. So, why trouble yourself?

 

Worrying about what other people think of us will only be a hindrance to achieving the dream life that we want. They can say anything they want, but you can’t allow yourself to believe in their words. For instance, if you love photography and your close friends tell you that you can’t take good photos, you can’t let their opinions of you matter. I’m sorry to say this, but you need to evaluate your friends. They are your friends their purpose is to support and love whatever you want. Stop sacrificing what you love just to please everyone. Remember, following your heart is your number one priority.

 

Before pursuing what I love, I had doubts that I could create an inspirational blog and the negative thinking of other people made it even worse. It made me question my ability and who I am as a person. I told myself that I have to create a life I envision for myself and pursue what I want so I’ll have no regrets in life.

 

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I remember what Steve Jobs told the graduating class at the Stanford University Commencement, “Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” His words cut right through me. It made a huge impact on me which made me think if it’s my last day on earth, what would I be doing? Would I be pleased and content with the way I am living? So, I made a decision to start living to pursue what I have always wanted and stop worrying what others might think of me because we only have one shot in this life. 

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How to stop worrying about what others think of you: 4 Simple Habits

  • Love yourself - I know it sounds so cheesy, but when you love yourself, you will choose to focus on your life rather than wasting your breath to explain things that others will never understand. You don’t need validation from other people. Know your worth.

  • Don’t take anything personally - Remember people say what they want to say. It doesn’t mean that their own opinions of you is true. The reality is you can’t please everyone. Some people will like you, some people don't, but that's absolutely fine. You are still amazing and you should know that more than anything.

  • Choose how you react - How will you respond on what life throws at you? Will you succumb to the negative things that others tell you about or will you move passed it? Do you think reacting and being emotional about things you can’t change will help you achieve what you want in life? Think about it clearly, if they say something negative about you, imagine puppies playing together (how cute is that!). No, but seriously, feed your mind with positive things.

  • Stop overthinking - Just stop and start doing what you have always wanted. If you're scared to go to the gym alone, just try it for once and see how it goes. Write that novel that you have been dreaming about and don't stop until you have finished writing the book. Travel to a different country alone or with a friend. Just go and do you. Often times, people are busy thinking about themselves, so stop worrying.

If there’s something I want you to remember is that you need to focus on what you love and what really matters. Stop worrying for the little things. Be free from worries and I promise life will get easier. Remember, what’s for you won’t pass you by. Another thing, look at the puppies and cats, they can make any day brighter, so that's the trick. When you are feeling down, frustrated and worried just look at them. Hehe till next time.😋❤️

 

Love,

Jamie

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PURSUE THE FIRE IN YOU

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What gets you up in the morning? What makes you feel so excited? What is your fire?

We all have a fire inside of us that is trapped somewhere beneath our comfort zone and fears.  A thing that pushes us to wake up early in the morning and keep us awake at night despite being sleepy and stressed. It is our will that makes us think we can survive another day of living and surpass all of the hardships. What if all of a sudden our will or fire doesn't have a meaning anymore?

We wake up everyday just to get by. We wake up the next day and the next day and the next. Suddenly, one morning we feel so exhausted, stuck in life, and it feels as if everything we worked so hard for are all for nothing. We lose our sense of self, feel depressed, and seem lost. Sometimes we think that we keep going in circles and no matter how hard we try, we always fail. We feel like giving up but deep down inside of our heart we know we are meant to experience a lot of amazing adventures, pursue our dreams and create our own personal legend.

The question is why can't we?

They say that life is short and to just do your own thing. They say to just go for it, but we continue to live in fear and allow our own shadows to hinder us from breaking free and becoming who we want to be. 

Believe it or not there is always something good or bad in every situation, but it is up to us to focus on the good and the positive things. If we think and believe positive things will happen to us then, we'll attract positive energy. If we give good energy to the universe then it will give it back . The universe is always conspiring for us to push ourselves and to chase our dreams despite the hardships and the feeling that we’re stuck in life.  

IF NOT NOW, WHEN?

Now is the time to start something new. Now is the moment to live passionately and forget about our fears and what others might think of us. This moment is about choosing how to live based on what we want and who we want to be. It is about making a choice to move forward and pursue the fire within us.

So, how do we get back our will to live?

  • Listen to your heart

  • Meditate and Focus

  • Create a vision board

  • Go out of your comfort zone

  • Get inspiration (read books and blogs)

  • Exercise and do some Yoga

  • Journal your thoughts

No matter how difficult life gets, trust your instincts and go back to your vision board. Chasing your dream is a brave act. Be proud of yourself because you chose to become happier and not settle with the way things are now. It won't always be sunshine and butterflies, but I promise you that if you get through it, you'll become stronger and wiser. 

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“I’ve come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that’s as unique as a fingerprint – and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you. ”― Oprah Winfrey

Oprah is best known for hosting her own talk show which made a huge hit airing for 25 seasons. We all know this amazing woman; she inspired billions of girls to make a positive impact and  pursue who they want to be. She started as a news anchor, but she didn't feel like it was a job meant for her. When she was still working as a reporter, her boss would reprimand her for being compassionate towards the people she interviews. She was fired because of that and when she saw an opportunity to be in a talk show she seized this and finally she found home. She used television as a platform to uplift, inspire, encourage and entertain billions of people which she have always dreamed of.

Oprah always believe in her instincts and decisions which led her to a successful and fulfilling life. It wasn't an easy journey for Oprah, but she knew her purpose and passion. She is a good role model to everyone who has a big dream of their own. When things get tough, we need to look up to inspirational people who surpassed difficult times like Oprah Winfrey. It is a reminder to us that if we worked hard on our dreams we can achieve it. If she can do it, we can do it too.

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Now you are ready to show the whole world who you are and what your personal legend is. You are ready to embark on a new adventure and create your own dream life. Go and move forward to show them what you can do! Pursue your dreams. It is never too late.

Best wishes,

Jamie