HOW TO STOP WORRYING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU

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DON'T WORRY, BE HAPPY

When we love what we do, how is it that we get easily swayed by other people’s opinion of us? The problem is that we worry whether or not they will accept who we are as a person. The fear of being judged and misunderstood cripple our decision making. The truth is they will always have opinions about us whether we like it or not. We can’t always please everyone, but there will always be someone who will support us. 

 

In a world full of negativity and hate we need to stand strong and stick with our guts. Before you read any further, I suggest you listen to Bobby McFerrin’s song, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”. The song goes like this: “In every life we have some trouble, but when you worry you make it double, don’t worry, be happy.” That’s right, when we worry too much it causes us even more stress. So, why trouble yourself?

 

Worrying about what other people think of us will only be a hindrance to achieving the dream life that we want. They can say anything they want, but you can’t allow yourself to believe in their words. For instance, if you love photography and your close friends tell you that you can’t take good photos, you can’t let their opinions of you matter. I’m sorry to say this, but you need to evaluate your friends. They are your friends their purpose is to support and love whatever you want. Stop sacrificing what you love just to please everyone. Remember, following your heart is your number one priority.

 

Before pursuing what I love, I had doubts that I could create an inspirational blog and the negative thinking of other people made it even worse. It made me question my ability and who I am as a person. I told myself that I have to create a life I envision for myself and pursue what I want so I’ll have no regrets in life.

 

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I remember what Steve Jobs told the graduating class at the Stanford University Commencement, “Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” His words cut right through me. It made a huge impact on me which made me think if it’s my last day on earth, what would I be doing? Would I be pleased and content with the way I am living? So, I made a decision to start living to pursue what I have always wanted and stop worrying what others might think of me because we only have one shot in this life. 

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How to stop worrying about what others think of you: 4 Simple Habits

  • Love yourself - I know it sounds so cheesy, but when you love yourself, you will choose to focus on your life rather than wasting your breath to explain things that others will never understand. You don’t need validation from other people. Know your worth.

  • Don’t take anything personally - Remember people say what they want to say. It doesn’t mean that their own opinions of you is true. The reality is you can’t please everyone. Some people will like you, some people don't, but that's absolutely fine. You are still amazing and you should know that more than anything.

  • Choose how you react - How will you respond on what life throws at you? Will you succumb to the negative things that others tell you about or will you move passed it? Do you think reacting and being emotional about things you can’t change will help you achieve what you want in life? Think about it clearly, if they say something negative about you, imagine puppies playing together (how cute is that!). No, but seriously, feed your mind with positive things.

  • Stop overthinking - Just stop and start doing what you have always wanted. If you're scared to go to the gym alone, just try it for once and see how it goes. Write that novel that you have been dreaming about and don't stop until you have finished writing the book. Travel to a different country alone or with a friend. Just go and do you. Often times, people are busy thinking about themselves, so stop worrying.

If there’s something I want you to remember is that you need to focus on what you love and what really matters. Stop worrying for the little things. Be free from worries and I promise life will get easier. Remember, what’s for you won’t pass you by. Another thing, look at the puppies and cats, they can make any day brighter, so that's the trick. When you are feeling down, frustrated and worried just look at them. Hehe till next time.😋❤️

 

Love,

Jamie

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